You see, it doesn't get any more American, or Muslim, than this. We've got Shatner, we've got Beat. We're looking for 70 excuses and seeing the best where its so easy to see the worst...
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Friday, July 24, 2009
Reality Check
Got this in an email and it literally made me guffaw out loud until my face hurt, so I thought I'd share the joy. :)
DO YOU WANT TO BE A MERMAID OR A WHALE?
A middle aged woman, whose physical characteristics did not match those of the woman on the poster, responded publicly to the question posed by the gym.
To Whom It May Concern:
Whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, sea lions, curious humans). They have an active sex life, they get pregnant and have adorable baby whales. They have a wonderful time stuffing themselves with shrimp. They play and swim in the seas, seeing wonderful places like Patagonia, the Barren Sea and the coral reefs of Polynesia . Whales are wonderful singers and have even recorded CDs. They are incredible creatures and virtually have no predators other than humans. They are loved, protected and admired by almost everyone in the world.
Mermaids don't exist. If they did exist, they would be lining up outside the offices of Argentinean psychoanalysts due to identity crisis. Fish or human? They don't have a sex life because they kill men who get close to them not to mention how could they have sex? Therefore they do not have kids either. Not to mention who wants to get close to a girl who smells like a fish store? The choice is perfectly clear to me; I want to be a whale.
P.S. We are in an age when media puts into our heads the idea that only skinny people are beautiful, but I prefer to enjoy an ice cream with my kids, a good dinner with a man who makes me shiver and a 32oz smoothie with my friends. With time we gain weight because we accumulate so much information and wisdom in our heads that when there is no more room it distributes out to the rest of our bodies. So we aren't heavy, we are enormously cultured, educated and happy. Beginning today, when I look at my butt in the mirror I will think, "Good gosh, look how smart I am.
DO YOU WANT TO BE A MERMAID OR A WHALE?
A middle aged woman, whose physical characteristics did not match those of the woman on the poster, responded publicly to the question posed by the gym.
To Whom It May Concern:
Whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, sea lions, curious humans). They have an active sex life, they get pregnant and have adorable baby whales. They have a wonderful time stuffing themselves with shrimp. They play and swim in the seas, seeing wonderful places like Patagonia, the Barren Sea and the coral reefs of Polynesia . Whales are wonderful singers and have even recorded CDs. They are incredible creatures and virtually have no predators other than humans. They are loved, protected and admired by almost everyone in the world.
Mermaids don't exist. If they did exist, they would be lining up outside the offices of Argentinean psychoanalysts due to identity crisis. Fish or human? They don't have a sex life because they kill men who get close to them not to mention how could they have sex? Therefore they do not have kids either. Not to mention who wants to get close to a girl who smells like a fish store? The choice is perfectly clear to me; I want to be a whale.
P.S. We are in an age when media puts into our heads the idea that only skinny people are beautiful, but I prefer to enjoy an ice cream with my kids, a good dinner with a man who makes me shiver and a 32oz smoothie with my friends. With time we gain weight because we accumulate so much information and wisdom in our heads that when there is no more room it distributes out to the rest of our bodies. So we aren't heavy, we are enormously cultured, educated and happy. Beginning today, when I look at my butt in the mirror I will think, "Good gosh, look how smart I am.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
I AM: in recovery
For the past 6 weeks or so, I've been attending a 12 step group in order to heal from my past and stop the patterns I feel trapped in in the present.
Tonight, I shared my work on Step 1 with my group. Step 1 reads "We came to admit we were powerless over (issue here), and that our lives had become unmanageable."
Sharing the places in my life where I am powerless, and the ways it has become unmanageable is no easy task. I'd felt sick half the afternoon. My ego did NOT want me doing this. I left the house late, I got lost on the way (!). When it came time to share, I wondered whether I would be able to speak. I have been carrying so much around inside of me. I have been polishing my mask. I withdraw when I don't think I'll be able to put on the perfect face... I've been withdrawing a lot lately.
As I opened my notebook and began to read, I could hear my voice trembling. I read. I could hear these judgmental voices in my head commenting on my words. I kept reading. I began to hear sounds of affirmation in the group. I kept reading. The Truth of my situation would hit me. I would choke up, and tears would fill my eyes so that I could not see. Someone would hand me a tissue. Someone else would put their hand on my shoulder. I kept reading.
When I was done with all the mess, all the exposure, all the admissions of powerless, all the lists of how I'd lost control, all the places my life has become unmanageable, I closed my notebook. Everyone was smiling at me. Everyone thanked me for sharing. It was time to break into small groups.
Several women gave me hugs. Told me how proud they were of me.
In my small group, the women praised me for my honesty. They congratulated me on my hard work. They told me I inspired them to work harder on their own steps.
One woman told me after the meeting that when she heard me talking so openly, so honestly and looking so deeply, she thought to herself "There is a woman that has hope. There is a woman who will heal and help others to do the same."
That meant so much to me. Before going to this group, I had been feeling mighty hopeless. I felt trapped in the negative patterns of my life- like I'd returned to levels of toxicity that I have not seen since I left the Southern Baptist church and my family's home. I was back in a situation where there is no emotional safety. Where honesty is almost impossible. Where everyone was playing roles and afraid to be themselves. It was deeply eroding not only my sense of self-esteem, but my relationship and connection with God.
I understood why my ego had fought my sharing tonight. Instead of the harsh, condemning, judgmental voices that I receive within my family, or the masjid, I heard words of praise and encouragement. Instead of being cut down and made to feel worthless, I was raised up and made to feel valuable. Instead of feeling terrible for admitting my powerlessness, my lack of control, I was embraced and congratulated for being so diligent and honest with the process.
How different this is from my experience in the community. Is that not a tragedy?
Surely, this is how Prophet Mohammad made people feel. Encouraging their honesty, their sincere tawba. Creating an atmosphere where that is possible, knowing that we are all flawed. Congratulating those that can readily admit those flaws and who work the process of coming closer to God.
The masjid today has gotten so far away from that sense of support and community that I envision when I read about The Prophet and his Companions. Instead of loving one another through our flaws, any flaw- no matter how minor- is exposed and castigated. Someone who seems to be losing control is not encircled and supported, but isolated and gossipped about. Victims of abuse are blamed, not helped. Abusers protected. It is severly dysfunctional. Tremendously toxic.
"Islam" is a state of being. The state of Peace, Health, Wholeness, Balance that comes from living in alignment with one's True Nature, fitrah, and the relationship with God that inevitably follows that alignment. I experienced that Peace tonight. I feel restored to Wholeness and Balance, and that is incredibly Healthy.
Too bad I had to be so far away from the masjid to find it...
Tonight, I shared my work on Step 1 with my group. Step 1 reads "We came to admit we were powerless over (issue here), and that our lives had become unmanageable."
Sharing the places in my life where I am powerless, and the ways it has become unmanageable is no easy task. I'd felt sick half the afternoon. My ego did NOT want me doing this. I left the house late, I got lost on the way (!). When it came time to share, I wondered whether I would be able to speak. I have been carrying so much around inside of me. I have been polishing my mask. I withdraw when I don't think I'll be able to put on the perfect face... I've been withdrawing a lot lately.
As I opened my notebook and began to read, I could hear my voice trembling. I read. I could hear these judgmental voices in my head commenting on my words. I kept reading. I began to hear sounds of affirmation in the group. I kept reading. The Truth of my situation would hit me. I would choke up, and tears would fill my eyes so that I could not see. Someone would hand me a tissue. Someone else would put their hand on my shoulder. I kept reading.
When I was done with all the mess, all the exposure, all the admissions of powerless, all the lists of how I'd lost control, all the places my life has become unmanageable, I closed my notebook. Everyone was smiling at me. Everyone thanked me for sharing. It was time to break into small groups.
Several women gave me hugs. Told me how proud they were of me.
In my small group, the women praised me for my honesty. They congratulated me on my hard work. They told me I inspired them to work harder on their own steps.
One woman told me after the meeting that when she heard me talking so openly, so honestly and looking so deeply, she thought to herself "There is a woman that has hope. There is a woman who will heal and help others to do the same."
That meant so much to me. Before going to this group, I had been feeling mighty hopeless. I felt trapped in the negative patterns of my life- like I'd returned to levels of toxicity that I have not seen since I left the Southern Baptist church and my family's home. I was back in a situation where there is no emotional safety. Where honesty is almost impossible. Where everyone was playing roles and afraid to be themselves. It was deeply eroding not only my sense of self-esteem, but my relationship and connection with God.
I understood why my ego had fought my sharing tonight. Instead of the harsh, condemning, judgmental voices that I receive within my family, or the masjid, I heard words of praise and encouragement. Instead of being cut down and made to feel worthless, I was raised up and made to feel valuable. Instead of feeling terrible for admitting my powerlessness, my lack of control, I was embraced and congratulated for being so diligent and honest with the process.
How different this is from my experience in the community. Is that not a tragedy?
Surely, this is how Prophet Mohammad made people feel. Encouraging their honesty, their sincere tawba. Creating an atmosphere where that is possible, knowing that we are all flawed. Congratulating those that can readily admit those flaws and who work the process of coming closer to God.
The masjid today has gotten so far away from that sense of support and community that I envision when I read about The Prophet and his Companions. Instead of loving one another through our flaws, any flaw- no matter how minor- is exposed and castigated. Someone who seems to be losing control is not encircled and supported, but isolated and gossipped about. Victims of abuse are blamed, not helped. Abusers protected. It is severly dysfunctional. Tremendously toxic.
"Islam" is a state of being. The state of Peace, Health, Wholeness, Balance that comes from living in alignment with one's True Nature, fitrah, and the relationship with God that inevitably follows that alignment. I experienced that Peace tonight. I feel restored to Wholeness and Balance, and that is incredibly Healthy.
Too bad I had to be so far away from the masjid to find it...
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Graduates, please rise
One of the graduates honored at Al-Muminah's reception waves at Mom during ASU's commencement and gets snapped.
Tonight, I attended an extraordinary event. It is an annual event here in the Valley, in fact, this year was the 15th annual Al-Muminah Graduation Reception, so it has become a part of our social landscape.
Routine can become a veil that dulls our senses to the beauty of the landscapes we live with, until Grace intervenes and something catches our eye--golden sunlight painting a ridge, a bird soaring--and the veil is lifted momentarily and we let Beauty in.
Sharing the table with the keynote speaker, Tayyibah Taylor from Azizah Magazine, I imagined seeing the event through her eyes. "You're creating American Muslim culture here. These are the traditions that construct our identity" she had told us the night before.
The Al-Muminah Graduation Reception honors all graduates from high school and up. The event is sisters-only, ages 8 and up, and the dress is formal. There is a program honoring the graduates, everyone eats dinner together, and an after party follows where shoes are kicked off and we dance the night away to a playlist that is put together with the help of ticket holders. This year, in keeping with the 15th year, the theme was a Quincenera.
To open the program, we all stood and took an oath of sisterhood that included not taking pictures so people don't have to worry about shots of them in spaghetti straps and plunging decollete showing up on facebook. The graduates, of every age and ethnicity imaginable, were escorted into the hall by elder women and introduced. A Quincenera waltz was performed. During the program, the graduates are presented with a certificate and a gift, while their accomplishments are read as well as their plans for the future. Representatives make speeches, advice is given for those coming up behind. It is a celebration of these women's accomplishments, and truly inspiring.
In a state that has dire educational rankings, high teen pregnancy rates, and soaring high school drop out rates, the impact that this display of talent, drive, focus, intellect and ambition has on the young girls in the audience can't be understated.
How it must be for the children to watch these amazing young women, gorgeously clad in their formal gowns, hearing their lists of accomplishments and the boldness of their future plans... what a beautiful testament that anything is possible. To see the proof standing in front of you. Not proof flown in- though that certainly has its inspirational potential- but proof in the annoying friend of your big sister, proof in your former teacher, proof in those that you've known all your life with their frailties and foibles. Women in general often downplay their accomplishments if they mention them at all. To hear all that someone has been involved in brings a new respect for each other to the surface. Flesh and blood reminders of the capacity of ordinary human beings.
In this place, surrounded by love and support, celebrated and honored, these girls, these women, bloomed. Their perfume sweet and heavy in the air, radiated, permeated, elevated us all to a place of movement and bliss, unity and power, strength and individuality. As women, as Americans, as Muslims, as humans. How appropriate that its beginnings were in the garden of someone's home.
I feel truly blessed to be a part of this. For many communities around the country, such an event is almost unimaginable.
It started in the backyard of the founding members of the Al-Muminah youth group 15 years ago and has grown into an event that now calls for reserving entire pavilions at conference centers and hotels. Tickets sell out every year; it is THE social event. The prom atmosphere works the girls into a frenzy over dresses and shoes, manicures and hair-dos.
There have been the nay-sayers that cluck their tongues over these elaborate displays, but I think they are either missing--or denying--something very essential to our sociology and psychology. Whether hijabi or not, these girls cloak their beauty and sexuality in a culture that pounds us all with images that say that a woman's worth lies solely in her sex appeal. Though I disapprove of that message for a variety of reasons, it has an undeniable effect on girls' self-esteem whether they participate in perpetuating those messages or not. Women want to be beautiful. They want to feel beautiful. They want to be seen as beautiful. This event celebrates that, and allows everyone a safe place to express that side of themselves.
The American tradition of prom is problematic for many Muslim families. It is problematic for many non-Muslim American families as well. The prom itself is a school event, which means it is supervised and drug and alcohol free, but its what happens before and after prom that scares any parent that worries about their child's ability to withstand temptation and adhere to the values they've been taught. Growing up, I knew parents that hired chefs to cook gourmet meals before the prom; presenting their kids with a glamorous (and free) alternative to eating out. Others threw after-parties at their homes to keep their children and their friends under their wing in a supervised environment. Increasingly, students go to prom in same-sex groups rather than with a date, and this certainly makes prom attendance more feasible for Muslims.
Even so, the Al-Muminah Graduation Reception provides an alternative to school proms that is completely worry free. Its girls-only. The music is screened. Its inter-generational. The girls can wear the dress they want without the worry of sending the wrong signals to some hapless boy. Most importantly, boys aren't there to mess anything up or act like goof-balls.
Proms are for girls. Boys don't like dressing up and eating fancy finger foods. Every prom is dampened by boys that don't want to be there, clashing with girls' expectations of what should be; a bull in the china shop of her fantasies. Here, the girls can enjoy themselves fully, wrapped in the downy envelope of their mutual admiration for each other and aligned expectations for the evening.
And what happens when girls are given that space is a magnificent thing to behold indeed.
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Restoration
Thank God. All I got to say, really-- all I can say. I cried all the way through this. Like salve for the wounds lashed on my soul as an American as long as I can remember...
Thank God. Thank You God. Thank You.
and for this to be released on the same day we find out about the four fools I call the 'Marijuana Muslims' in NYC...
in that daily struggle of light and shadow,
I finish the day with a sigh of relief,
confident in Light's ability
to scatter Darkness.
Thank God. Thank You God. Thank You.
and for this to be released on the same day we find out about the four fools I call the 'Marijuana Muslims' in NYC...
in that daily struggle of light and shadow,
I finish the day with a sigh of relief,
confident in Light's ability
to scatter Darkness.
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Fleeing Failure
"Yeah, so the article said that when it comes to failure, there are two types of people;" my friend told me as she popped a piece of sushi in her mouth. She's degreed in biology, and is forever feeding me fascinating tidbits on the wonders of creation. "There are those that deny failure. They blame, they avoid, they insist it wasn't their fault, they were in the wrong place at the wrong time, they're being picked on, you name it."
"Right. Prison is full of those." I replied.
We laughed. "Right. Nothing changes for these deniers. The brain stays the same- no development."
My eyes were wide, eager, as I dipped my roll in the wasabi-soaked sauce. Dichotomies, or dividing issues into two opposing categories, always make me suspicious. Not only is Life typically more complicated, thinking in dualities polarizes and divides us as people- pushing us to abandon middle ground and move to the extremes of left or right, this or that, for or against. I was ready to try to expand the two categories; to diversify.
"Then there are those that accept failure. They face it. Facing it and accepting it changes their brain. It opens neural pathways and pushes development forward."
I lowered my chopsticks and sat back in the booth. "SubhanAllah."
"Yeah, 'cause they're looking to see 'What did I do wrong?' asking themselves 'How can I do better?' It changes you."
So we don't just learn from our mistakes, we need mistakes to learn.
For more than a decade, I have meditated heavily on the story of Adam and Eve. Indeed, the Qur'an's insight into them was tremendously affirming for me and certainly played a role in my conversion. I had long seen the doctrine of Original Sin as being inherently evil in the way that it distances us from God, pushes us to identify with our egos instead of God's Breath as the Truth of who we are, and justifies corrupt behavior (after all, if we are corrupt at our core, can we really ever hope to be anything other than corrupt? But if we have God's Breath at our core, then evil is something we can win over and leave behind). I did not see any justification for Original Sin in the story of Adam and Eve. In fact, I read that story very differently from how I'd been taught.
The real problem was not so much that they ate the fruit- surely God knew that they would- the problem was that they did not take responsibility for what they had done. Adam blamed God and Eve, Eve blamed the snake. No one admitted to what they had done, no one repented.
When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes, we begin engaging in all sorts of behaviors to justify ourselves, and this puts a distance between us and God. It affects our relationship with ourselves and with others. The word "Eden" means "Bliss". So we can see that the story is showing us how we remove ourselves from the Bliss of God's Presence when we refuse to take responsibility for our actions, when we don't accept our failures. Blame blocks Bliss.
To return to the Garden, we need to face Truth and undergo purification. In the Genesis story, this is symbolized by the angel with the flaming sword guarding the gate. The Qur'an is very straightforward: Adam and Eve repented and were forgiven. They continued on to Earth, as was always the intention, and God provided sustenance and guidance.
The way the lines of Genesis are colored in by the Qur'an relieves us of the guilt attached to living on this planet, and assures us that it was always meant to be so. The stigma of making mistakes is lifted; "They slipped" is all that is said. We are assured on a variety of levels: making mistakes is part of being human, the Earth is not a prison but was always our intended dwelling place, and forgiveness is ours for the asking.
I had understood for quite some time that making the mistake was an integral part of the story- that, somehow, they could not go to the Earth until they did... but I didn't understand why. In hearing the role that facing our mistakes and accepting failure plays in our brain's development, so much falls into place.
Failure is necessary. We need it to grow. No wonder God tells us that if we cease to make mistakes and repent for them He will create a people that will... that we all make mistakes and the best of those that make mistakes are those who repent: to accept failure is to move forward. To move forward is to come closer to God. To become rigid, immersed in blame, afraid of change and failure, and convinced of our own piousness is to halt our development and begin moving away from God towards spiritual and intellectual death.
Failure is necessary. We need it to grow. How gloriously liberating! What a smack in the face of the Whisperer that is forever telling us how damned we are because we are not perfect. We needn't ever be ashamed for making a mistake- only in not ADMITTING that we have made a mistake. Failure is not the problem, denying failure is the problem.
Failure is necessary. We need it to grow. What a demonstration of God's Grace woven so intricately into our creation. God is indeed Greater- greater in Mercy and Forgiveness than we can even imagine.
As I saw in an article title: "Failure is not an option--Its Required"
"Right. Prison is full of those." I replied.
We laughed. "Right. Nothing changes for these deniers. The brain stays the same- no development."
My eyes were wide, eager, as I dipped my roll in the wasabi-soaked sauce. Dichotomies, or dividing issues into two opposing categories, always make me suspicious. Not only is Life typically more complicated, thinking in dualities polarizes and divides us as people- pushing us to abandon middle ground and move to the extremes of left or right, this or that, for or against. I was ready to try to expand the two categories; to diversify.
"Then there are those that accept failure. They face it. Facing it and accepting it changes their brain. It opens neural pathways and pushes development forward."
I lowered my chopsticks and sat back in the booth. "SubhanAllah."
"Yeah, 'cause they're looking to see 'What did I do wrong?' asking themselves 'How can I do better?' It changes you."
So we don't just learn from our mistakes, we need mistakes to learn.
For more than a decade, I have meditated heavily on the story of Adam and Eve. Indeed, the Qur'an's insight into them was tremendously affirming for me and certainly played a role in my conversion. I had long seen the doctrine of Original Sin as being inherently evil in the way that it distances us from God, pushes us to identify with our egos instead of God's Breath as the Truth of who we are, and justifies corrupt behavior (after all, if we are corrupt at our core, can we really ever hope to be anything other than corrupt? But if we have God's Breath at our core, then evil is something we can win over and leave behind). I did not see any justification for Original Sin in the story of Adam and Eve. In fact, I read that story very differently from how I'd been taught.
The real problem was not so much that they ate the fruit- surely God knew that they would- the problem was that they did not take responsibility for what they had done. Adam blamed God and Eve, Eve blamed the snake. No one admitted to what they had done, no one repented.
When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes, we begin engaging in all sorts of behaviors to justify ourselves, and this puts a distance between us and God. It affects our relationship with ourselves and with others. The word "Eden" means "Bliss". So we can see that the story is showing us how we remove ourselves from the Bliss of God's Presence when we refuse to take responsibility for our actions, when we don't accept our failures. Blame blocks Bliss.
To return to the Garden, we need to face Truth and undergo purification. In the Genesis story, this is symbolized by the angel with the flaming sword guarding the gate. The Qur'an is very straightforward: Adam and Eve repented and were forgiven. They continued on to Earth, as was always the intention, and God provided sustenance and guidance.
The way the lines of Genesis are colored in by the Qur'an relieves us of the guilt attached to living on this planet, and assures us that it was always meant to be so. The stigma of making mistakes is lifted; "They slipped" is all that is said. We are assured on a variety of levels: making mistakes is part of being human, the Earth is not a prison but was always our intended dwelling place, and forgiveness is ours for the asking.
I had understood for quite some time that making the mistake was an integral part of the story- that, somehow, they could not go to the Earth until they did... but I didn't understand why. In hearing the role that facing our mistakes and accepting failure plays in our brain's development, so much falls into place.
Failure is necessary. We need it to grow. No wonder God tells us that if we cease to make mistakes and repent for them He will create a people that will... that we all make mistakes and the best of those that make mistakes are those who repent: to accept failure is to move forward. To move forward is to come closer to God. To become rigid, immersed in blame, afraid of change and failure, and convinced of our own piousness is to halt our development and begin moving away from God towards spiritual and intellectual death.
Failure is necessary. We need it to grow. How gloriously liberating! What a smack in the face of the Whisperer that is forever telling us how damned we are because we are not perfect. We needn't ever be ashamed for making a mistake- only in not ADMITTING that we have made a mistake. Failure is not the problem, denying failure is the problem.
Failure is necessary. We need it to grow. What a demonstration of God's Grace woven so intricately into our creation. God is indeed Greater- greater in Mercy and Forgiveness than we can even imagine.
As I saw in an article title: "Failure is not an option--Its Required"
Sunday, April 5, 2009
The Power of Stories
I've become quite the hulu.com junkie. I've been making my way through documentary series; first I watched all the "30 Days" episodes they had, and was continually touched by the ability of the show's structure to soften even the hardest of hearts. God bless Morgan Spurlock for doing this most crucial of work to help us to see each other as humans instead of (opposing) issues.
Now I'm making my way through the "Empires" series. I finished "The Kingdom of David" last week. The series began with the Jews being brought into captivity in Babylon. The scribes and religious leaders decided that the way to get the Jewish people out of slavery was through their stories. So they took a religion that had been oral, and began transcribing it to paper. Historical accuracy was not as important as imparting morals and patterns of behavior. They needed spiritual roadmaps; working in the Truth imparted to Muslims in the Qur'anic verse "God will not change the state of a people until they change themselves."
Throughout the series, the commentators emphasized that the legacy of the Jewish empire was not land or wealth, but ideas. The idea of One God. The idea of religious autonomy (the Maccabbees revolt against idols in the temple of Jerusalem). The idea of democratization of religious institutions (replacing the temple and priests with synagogues and rabbis). The idea that piety lays not in how one treats the gods, as it had in paganism, but in how people treat each other: the Ten Commandments given to Moses were largely concerned with behavior rather than temple rites.
The fact that stories are healing, the political implications of which are so beautifully laid out in the Arabic legend of Sheherezade, is a cornerstone of American society. Recovery groups are built on stories, non-profits are expanded through stories, fields of psychoanalysis use stories as their primary tool, television programs revolve around real-life stories. Indeed, the Qur'an edifies and encourages through stories, reviving stories that had been lost, deepening stories already known. Muslim literature, based on the idea that reporting life was interesting enough without the need for fiction, revolved around biographies- the telling of life stories. Stories inspire and encourage because they touch something very deep and personal within all of us. They connect us to one another, to ourselves, and thus to God.
Yet the Muslim community is silent. People are warned against telling their stories. Stories told are often punished by those that are so small minded they see only fodder for gossip rather than fuel for growth and change.
We are suffering from a plague of social diseases and dysfunction in our community, however, recovery and growth programs--even programs to lift families out of poverty--are left dead in the water because Muslims won't respect confidentiality. Apparently we would rather be sick than foster an atmosphere supportive of openness and honesty.
We know that God does not send a disease without sending the cure. Have we become so lost that we would deny the cure for so many of our ills: sharing stories? Has our communal immune system become so infected that we only turn on ourselves; attacking that which is there to heal us?
Stories heal because they bring darkness into the light. Stories heal because they help us find our voice. Stories heal because they connect us. Stories heal because they humble us, making us realize that we are all struggling, that we all make mistakes. Stories empower for that same reason. Stories help us better discover who we are, and as Prophet Mohammad told us: he who knows himself, knows his God. Stories help us release the past so that we can move on with our lives, instead of having to perpetually shove things deeper in the closet and always worry they will pop out. Stories strengthen us against the whispers of the Shaitan. Stories open us to the beauty of God and the Creation. Stories confirm faith and foster community. Stories help us understand where we've been so that we can see where we're going. Stories help us change. Stories are, indeed, the most effective tool for change humanity has ever known.
Now I'm making my way through the "Empires" series. I finished "The Kingdom of David" last week. The series began with the Jews being brought into captivity in Babylon. The scribes and religious leaders decided that the way to get the Jewish people out of slavery was through their stories. So they took a religion that had been oral, and began transcribing it to paper. Historical accuracy was not as important as imparting morals and patterns of behavior. They needed spiritual roadmaps; working in the Truth imparted to Muslims in the Qur'anic verse "God will not change the state of a people until they change themselves."
Throughout the series, the commentators emphasized that the legacy of the Jewish empire was not land or wealth, but ideas. The idea of One God. The idea of religious autonomy (the Maccabbees revolt against idols in the temple of Jerusalem). The idea of democratization of religious institutions (replacing the temple and priests with synagogues and rabbis). The idea that piety lays not in how one treats the gods, as it had in paganism, but in how people treat each other: the Ten Commandments given to Moses were largely concerned with behavior rather than temple rites.
The fact that stories are healing, the political implications of which are so beautifully laid out in the Arabic legend of Sheherezade, is a cornerstone of American society. Recovery groups are built on stories, non-profits are expanded through stories, fields of psychoanalysis use stories as their primary tool, television programs revolve around real-life stories. Indeed, the Qur'an edifies and encourages through stories, reviving stories that had been lost, deepening stories already known. Muslim literature, based on the idea that reporting life was interesting enough without the need for fiction, revolved around biographies- the telling of life stories. Stories inspire and encourage because they touch something very deep and personal within all of us. They connect us to one another, to ourselves, and thus to God.
Yet the Muslim community is silent. People are warned against telling their stories. Stories told are often punished by those that are so small minded they see only fodder for gossip rather than fuel for growth and change.
We are suffering from a plague of social diseases and dysfunction in our community, however, recovery and growth programs--even programs to lift families out of poverty--are left dead in the water because Muslims won't respect confidentiality. Apparently we would rather be sick than foster an atmosphere supportive of openness and honesty.
We know that God does not send a disease without sending the cure. Have we become so lost that we would deny the cure for so many of our ills: sharing stories? Has our communal immune system become so infected that we only turn on ourselves; attacking that which is there to heal us?
Stories heal because they bring darkness into the light. Stories heal because they help us find our voice. Stories heal because they connect us. Stories heal because they humble us, making us realize that we are all struggling, that we all make mistakes. Stories empower for that same reason. Stories help us better discover who we are, and as Prophet Mohammad told us: he who knows himself, knows his God. Stories help us release the past so that we can move on with our lives, instead of having to perpetually shove things deeper in the closet and always worry they will pop out. Stories strengthen us against the whispers of the Shaitan. Stories open us to the beauty of God and the Creation. Stories confirm faith and foster community. Stories help us understand where we've been so that we can see where we're going. Stories help us change. Stories are, indeed, the most effective tool for change humanity has ever known.
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